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CHAPTER 3: MOTHERS,
DAUGHTERS, AND
WIVES IN ISRAEL BY ALFRED
EDERSHEIM
Note From The Web Page Author:
What follows is the entire Chapter 9 of Alfred Edersheim’s
book “Sketches
of Jewish Social Life”.
The title of this chapter is: “Mothers,
Daughters, and Wives In Israel”.
It is taken from pages 129-147 of the updated printed
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IN order accurately to understand the
position of woman in Israel, it is only necessary carefully
to peruse the New Testament. The picture of social life
there presented gives a full view of the place which she
held in private and in public life. Here we do not find that
separation, so common among Orientals at all times, but
woman mingles freely with others both at home and abroad. So
far from suffering under social inferiority, she takes
influential and often leading part in all movements,
specially those of a religious character. Above all, we are
wholly spared those sickening details of private and public
immorality with which contemporary classical literature
abounds. Among Israel woman was pure, the home happy, and
the family hallowed by a religion which consisted not only
in public services, but entered into daily life, and
embraced in its observances every member of the household.
It was so not only in New Testament times but always in
Israel. St. Peter’s reference to “the holy women” “in the
old time” (1 Peter 3:5) is thoroughly in accordance with
Talmudical views. Indeed, his quotation of Genesis 18:12,
and its application: “Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling
him lord,” occur in precisely the same manner in Rabbinical
writings (Tanch.
28, 6), where her respect and obedience are likewise set
forth as a pattern to her daughters.
Some further details may illustrate the
matter better than arguments. The creation of woman from the
rib of Adam is thus commented on: “It is as if Adam had
exchanged a pot of earth for a precious jewel.” This,
although Jewish wit caustically had it: “God has cursed
woman, yet all the world runs after her; He has cursed the
ground, yet all the world lives of it.” In what reverence
“the four mothers,” as the Rabbis designate Sarah, Rebekah,
Leah, and Rachel, were held, and what influence they
exercised in patriarchal history, no attentive reader of
Scripture can fail to notice. And as we follow on the sacred
story, Miriam, who had originally saved Moses, leads the
song of deliverance on the other side of the flood, and her
influence, though not always for good, continued till her
death (compare Micah 6:4). Then “the women whose heart
stirred them up in wisdom” contribute to the rearing of the
Tabernacle;
Deborah
works deliverance, and judgeth in Israel; and the piety of
Manoah’s wife is at least as conspicuous, and more
intelligent, than her husband’s (Judges 13:23). So also is
that of the mother of Samuel. In the times of the kings the
praises of Israel’s maidens stir the jealousy of Saul;
Abigail knows how to avert the danger of her husband’s
folly; the wise woman of Tekoah is sent for to induce the
king to fetch his banished home; and the conduct of a woman
“in her wisdom” puts an end to the rebellion of Sheba. Later
on, the constant mention of queen mothers, and their
frequent interference in the government, shows their
position. Such names as that of Huldah the prophetess, and
the idyllic narrative of the Shunammite, will readily occur
to the memory. The story of a woman’s devotion forms the
subject of the Book of Ruth; that of her pure and faithful
love, the theme or the imagery of the Song of Songs; that of
her courage and devotion the groundwork of the Book of
Esther: while her worth and virtues are enumerated in the
closing chapter of the Book of Proverbs. Again, in the
language of the prophets the people of God are called “the
daughter,” “the virgin daughter of Zion,” “the daughter of
Jerusalem,” “the daughter of Judah,” etc.; and their
relationship to God is constantly compared to that of the
married state. The very terms by which woman is named in the
Old Testament are significant. If the man is
Ish,
his wife is
Ishah,
simply his equal; if the husband is
Gever,
the ruler, the woman is, in her own domain,
Gevirah
and
Gevereth,
the mistress (as frequently in the history of Sarah and in
other passages), or else
the
dweller at home
(Nevath
bayith,
Psalm 68:12).
Nor is
it otherwise in New Testament times. The ministry of woman
to our blessed Lord, and in the Church, has almost become
proverbial. Her position there marks really not a progress
upon, but the full carrying out of, the Old Testament idea;
or, to put the matter in another light, we ask no better
than that any one who is acquainted with classical antiquity
should compare what he reads of a Dorcas, of the mother of
Mark, of Lydia, Priscilla, Phoebe, Lois, or Eunice, with
what he knows of the noble women of Greece and Rome at that
period.
Of course, against all this may be see
the permission of
polygamy,
which undoubtedly was in force at the time of our Lord, and
the ease with which
divorce
might be
obtained. In reference to both these, however, it must be
remembered that they were temporary concessions to “the
hardness” of the people’s heart. For, not only must the
circumstances of the times and the moral state of the Jewish
and of neighboring nations be taken into account, but there
were progressive stages of spiritual development. If these
had not been taken into account, the religion of the Old
Testament would have been unnatural and an impossibility.
Suffice it, that “from the beginning it was not so,” nor yet
intended to be so in the end — the intermediate period thus
marking the gradual progress from the perfectness of the
idea to the perfectness of its realization. Moreover, it is
impossible to read the Old, and still more the New Testament
without gathering from it the conviction, that polygamy was
not the rule but the rare exception, so far as the people
generally were concerned. Although the practice in reference
to divorce was certainly more lax, even the Rabbis
surrounded it with so many safeguards that, in point of
fact, it must in many cases have been difficult of
accomplishment. In general, the whole tendency of the Mosaic
legislation, and even more explicitly that of later
Rabbinical ordinances, was in the direction of recognizing
the rights of woman, with a scrupulousness which reached
down even to the Jewish slave, and a delicacy that guarded
her most sensitive feelings. Indeed, we feel warranted in
saying, that in cases of dispute the law generally leant to
her side. Of
divorce
we shall
have to speak in the sequel. But what the religious views
and feelings both about it and monogamy were at the time of
Malachi, appears from the pathetic description of the altar
of God as covered with the tears of “the wife of youth,”
“the wife of thy covenant,” “thy companion,” who had been
“put away” or “treacherously dealt” with (Malachi 2:13 to
end). The whole is so beautifully paraphrased by the Rabbis
that we subjoin it:
“If
death hath snatched from thee the wife of youth,
It is as
if the sacred city were,
And e’en
the Temple, in thy pilgrim days,
Defiled,
laid low, and levelled with the dust.
The man
who harshly sends from him
His
first-woo’d wife, the loving wife of youth,
For him
the very altar of the Lord
Sheds
forth its tears of bitter agony.”
Where the social intercourse between the
sexes was nearly as unrestricted as among ourselves, so far
as consistent with Eastern manners, it would, of course, be
natural for a young man to make personal choice of his
bride. Of this Scripture affords abundant evidence. But, at
any rate, the woman had, in case of betrothal or marriage,
to give her own free and expressed consent, without which a
union was invalid.
Minors
— in the
case of girls up to twelve years and one day — might be
betrothed or given away by their father. In that case,
however, they had afterwards the right of insisting upon
divorce. Of course, it is not intended to convey that woman
attained her full position till under the New Testament. But
this is only to repeat what may be said of almost every
social state and relationship. Yet it is most marked how
deeply the spirit of the Old Testament, which is essentially
that of the New also, had in this respect also penetrated
the life of Israel. St. Paul’s warning (2 Corinthians 6:14)
against being “unequally yoked together,” which is an
allegorical application of Leviticus 19:19; Deuteronomy
22:10, finds to some extent a counterpart in mystical
Rabbinical writings,
where
the last-mentioned passage is expressly applied to
spiritually unequal marriages. The admonition of 1
Corinthians 7:39 to marry “only in the Lord,” recalls many
similar Rabbinical warnings, from which we select the most
striking. Men, we are told,
are wont
to marry for one of four reasons — for passion, wealth,
honor, or the glory of God. As for the first-named class of
marriages, their issue must be expected to be “stubborn and
rebellious” sons, as we may gather from the section
referring to such following upon that in Deuteronomy 21:11.
In regard to marriages for wealth, we are to learn a lesson
from the sons of Eli, who sought to enrich themselves in
such manner, but of whose posterity it was said (1 Samuel
2:36) that they should “crouch for a piece of silver and a
morsel of bread.” Of marriages for the sake of connection,
honor, and influence, King Jehoram offered a warning, who
became King Ahab’s son-in-law, because that monarch had
seventy sons, whereas upon his death his widow Athaliah
“arose and destroyed all the seed royal” (2 Kings 11:1). But
far otherwise is it in case of marriage “in the name of
heaven.” The issue of such will be children who “preserve
Israel.” In fact, the Rabbinical references to marrying “in
the name of heaven,” or “for the name of God,” — in God and
for God — are so frequent and so emphatic, that the
expressions used by St. Paul must have come familiarly to
him. Again, much that is said in 1 Corinthians 7 about the
married estate, finds striking parallels in Talmudical
writings. One may here be mentioned, as explaining the
expression (ver. 14): “Else were your children unclean; but
now are they holy.” Precisely the same distinction was made
by the Rabbis in regard to proselytes, whose children, if
begotten before their conversion to Judaism, were said to be
“unclean;” if after that event to have been born “in
holiness,” only that, among the Jews,
both
parents
required to profess Judaism, while St. Paul argues in the
contrary direction, and concerning a far different holiness
than that which could be obtained through any mere outward
ceremony.
Some further details, gathered almost at
random, will give glimpses of Jewish home life and of
current views. It was by a not uncommon, though irreverent,
mode of witticism, that two forms of the same verb, sounding
almost alike, were made to express opposite experiences of
marriage. It was common to ask a newly-married husband: “Maza
or
Mose?”
— “findeth” or” found;” the first expression occurring in
Proverbs 18:22, the second in Ecclesiastes 7:26. A different
sentiment is the following from the Talmud (Yeb.
62
b;
Sanh.
76
b),
the similarity of which to Ephesians 5:28 will be
immediately recognized: “He that loveth his wife as his own
body, honoreth her more than his own body, brings up his
children in the right way, and leads them in it to full age
— of him the Scripture saith: Ò Thou shalt know that thy
tabernacle shall be in peace” (Job 5:24) Of all qualities
those most desired in woman were meekness, modesty, and
shamefacedness. Indeed, brawling, gossip in the streets, and
immodest behavior in public were sufficient grounds for
divorce. Of course, Jewish women would never have attempted
“teaching” in the synagogue, where they occupied a place
separate from the men — for Rabbinical study, however valued
for the male sex, was disapproved of in the case of women.
Yet this direction of St. Paul (1 Timothy 2:12): “I suffer
not a woman to usurp authority over the man” findeth some
kind of parallel in the Rabbinical saying: “Whoever allows
himself to be ruled by his wife, shall call out, and no one
will make answer to him.”
It is on similar grounds that the Rabbis
argue, that man must seek after woman, and not a woman after
a man; only the reason which they assign for it sounds
strange. Man, they say, was formed from the ground — woman
from man’s rib; hence, in trying to find a wife man only
looks after what he had lost! This formation of man from
soft clay, and of woman from a hard bone, also illustrated
why man was so much more easily reconcilable than woman.
Similarly, it was observed, that God had not formed woman
out of the head, lest she should become proud; nor out of
the eye, lest she should lust; nor out of the ear, lest she
should be curious; nor out of the mouth, lest she should be
talkative; nor out of the heart, lest she should be jealous;
nor out of the hand; lest she should be covetous; nor out of
the foot, lest she be a busybody; but out of the rib, which
was always covered. Modesty was, therefore, a prime quality.
It was no doubt chiefly in jealous regard for this, that
women were interdicted engaging in Rabbinical studies; and a
story is related to show how even the wisest of women,
Beruria, was thereby brought to the brink of extreme danger.
It is not so easy to explain why women were dispensed from
all positive obligations (commands, but not prohibitions)
that were not general in their bearing (Kidd.
1. 7, 8), but fixed to certain periods of time (such as
wearing the phylacteries, etc.), and from that of certain
prayers, unless it be that woman was considered not her own
mistress but subject to others, or else that husband and
wife were regarded as one, so that his merits and prayers
applied to her as well. Indeed, this view, at least so far
as the meritorious nature of a man’s engagement with the law
is concerned, is expressly brought forward, and women are
accordingly admonished to encourage their husbands in all
such studies.
We can understand how, before the coming
of the Messiah, marriage should have been looked upon as of
religious obligation. Many passages of Scripture were at
least
quoted
in
support of this idea. Ordinarily, a young man was expected
to enter the wedded state (according to Maimonides) at the
age of sixteen or seventeen, while the age of twenty may be
regarded as the utmost limit conceded, unless study so
absorbed time and attention as to leave no leisure for the
duties of married life. Still it was thought better even to
neglect study than to remain single. Yet money cares on
account of wife and children were dreaded. The same
comparison is used in reference to them, which our Lord
applies to quite a different “offense,” that against the
“little ones” (Luke 17:2). Such cares are called by the
Rabbis, “a millstone round the neck” (Kidd.
29
b).
In fact, the expression seems to have become proverbial,
like so many others which are employed in the New Testament.
We read in the Gospel that, when the
Virgin-mother “was espoused to Joseph, before they came
together, she was found with child of the Holy Ghost. Then
Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to
make her a public example, was minded to put her away
privily” (Matthew 1:18, 19). The narrative implies a
distinction between
betrothal
and
marriage
— Joseph
being at the time betrothed, but not actually married to the
Virgin mother. Even in the Old Testament a distinction is
made between
betrothal
and
marriage.
The former was marked by a bridal present (or
Mohar,
Genesis 34:12; Exodus 22:17; 1 Samuel 18:25), with which the
father, however, would in certain circumstances dispense.
From the moment of her betrothal a woman was treated as if
she were actually married. The union could not be dissolved,
except by regular divorce; breach of faithfulness was
regarded as adultery; and the property of the woman became
virtually that of her betrothed, unless he had expressly
renounced it (Kidd.
9. 1). But even in that case he was her natural heir. It is
impossible here to enter into the various legal details, as,
for example, about property or money which might come to a
woman after betrothal or marriage. The law adjudicated this
to the husband, yet with many restrictions, and with
infinite delicacy towards the woman, as if reluctant to put
in force the rights of the stronger (Kidd.
8. 1, etc.). From the Mishnah (Bab.
B.
10. 4) we also learn that there were regular
Shitre
Erusin,
or writings of betrothal, drawn up by the authorities (the
costs being paid by the bridegroom). These stipulated the
mutual obligations, the dowry, and all other points on which
the parties had agreed. The
Shitre
Erusin
were
different from the regular
Chethubah
(literally,
writing),
or marriage contract, without which the Rabbis regarded a
marriage as merely legalized concubinage (Cheth.
5. 1). The
Chethubah
provided
a settlement of at least two hundred denars for a maiden,
and one hundred denars for a widow, while the priestly
council at Jerusalem fixed four hundred denars for a
priest’s daughter. Of course these sums indicate only the
legal
minimum,
and might be increased indefinitely at pleasure, though
opinions differ whether any larger sums might be legally
exacted, if matters did not go beyond betrothal. The form at
present in use among the Jews sets forth, that the
bridegroom weds his bride “according to the law of Moses and
of Israel;” that he promises “to please, to honor, to
nourish, and to care for her, as is the manner of the men of
Israel,” adding thereto the woman’s consent, the document
being signed by two witnesses. In all probability this was
substantially the form in olden times. In Jerusalem and in
Galilee — where it was said that men in their choice had
regard to “a fair degree,” while in the rest of Judaea they
looked a good deal after money — widows had the right of
residence in their husband’s house secured to them.
On the other hand, a father was bound to
provide a dowry (nedan,
nedanjah)
for his daughter conformable to her station in life; and a
second daughter could claim a portion equal to that of her
elder sister, or else one tenth of all immovable property.
In case of the father’s death, the sons, who, according to
Jewish law, were his sole heirs, were bound to maintain
their sisters, even though this would have thrown them upon
public charity, and to endow each with a tenth part of what
had been left. The dowry, whether in money, property, or
jewelry, was entered into the marriage contract, and really
belonged to the wife, the husband being obliged to add to it
one-half more, if it consisted of money or money’s value;
and if of jewelry, etc., to assign to her four-fifths of its
value. In case of separation (not divorce) he was bound to
allow her a proper aliment, and to re-admit her to his table
and house on the Sabbath-eve. A wife was entitled to
one-tenth of her dowry for pin-money. If a father gave away
his daughter without any distinct statement about her dowry,
he was bound to allow her at least fifty
sus;
and if it had been expressly stipulated that she was to have
no dowry at all, it was delicately enjoined that the
bridegroom should,
before
marriage,
give her sufficient for the necessary outfit. An orphan was
to receive a dowry of at least fifty
sus
from the
parochial authorities. A husband could not oblige his wife
to leave the Holy Land nor the city of Jerusalem, nor yet to
change a town for a country residence, or
vice
versa,
nor a good for a bad house. These are only a few of the
provisions which show how carefully the law protected the
interests of women. To enter into farther details would lead
beyond our present object. All this was substantially
settled at the betrothal, which, in Judaea at least, seems
to have been celebrated by a feast. Only a
bona
fide
breach
of these arrangements, or willful fraud, was deemed valid
ground for dissolving the bond once formed. Otherwise, as
already noted, a regular divorce was necessary.
According to Rabbinical law certain
formalities were requisite to make a betrothal legally
valid. These consisted either in handing to a woman,
directly or through messengers, a piece of money, however
small, or else a letter,
provided
it were in each case expressly stated before witnesses, that
the man thereby intended to espouse the woman as his wife.
The marriage followed after a longer or shorter interval,
the limits of which, however, were fixed by law. The
ceremony itself consisted in leading the bride into the
house of the bridegroom, with certain formalities, mostly
dating from very ancient times. Marriage with a maiden was
commonly celebrated on a Wednesday afternoon, which allowed
the first days of the week for preparation, and enabled the
husband, if he had a charge to prefer against the previous
chastity of his bride, to make immediate complaint before
the local Sanhedrim, which sat every Thursday. On the other
hand, the marriage of a widow was celebrated on Thursday
afternoon, which left three days of the week for “rejoicing
with her.” This circumstance enables us, with some
certainty, to arrange the date of the events which preceded
the marriage in Cana. Inferring from the accompanying
festivities that it was the marriage of a maiden, and
therefore took place on a Wednesday, we have the following
succession of events: — On
Thursday
(beginning as every Jewish day with the previous evening),
testimony of the Baptist to the Sanhedrim-deputation from
Jerusalem. On
Friday
(John
1:29), “John seeth Jesus coming unto him,” and significantly
preacheth the first sermon about “the Lamb of God which
taketh away the sin of the world.” On
Saturday
(ver.
35), John’s second sermon on the same text; the consequent
conversion of St. John and St. Andrew, and the calling of
St. Peter. On
Sunday
(ver.
43), our Lord Himself preacheth His first Messianic sermon,
and calls Philip and Nathanael. On “the third day” after it,
that is, on
Wednesday,
was the marriage in Cana of Galilee. The significance of
these dates, when compared with those in the week of our
Lord’s Passion, will be sufficiently evident.
But this is not all that may be learned
from the account of the marriage in Cana. Of course, there
was a “marriage-feast,” as on all these occasions. For this
reason, marriages were not celebrated either on the Sabbath,
or on the day before or after it, lest the Sabbath-rest
should be endangered. Nor was it lawful to wed on any of the
three annual festivals, in order, as the Rabbis put it, “not
to mingle one joy (that of the marriage) with another (that
of the festival).” As it was deemed a religious duty to give
pleasure to the newly-married couple, the merriment at times
became greater than the more strict Rabbis approved.
Accordingly, it is said of one, that to produce gravity he
broke a vase worth about £25; of another, that at his son’s
wedding he broke a costly glass; and of a third, that being
asked to sing, he exclaimed, Woe to us, for we must all die!
For, as it is added (Ber.
31
a):
“It is forbidden to man, that his mouth be filled with
laughter in this world (dispensation), as it is written,
‘Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue
with singing.’ When is that to be? At the time when ‘they
shall sing among the heathen, The Lord hath done great
things for them.’”
It deserves notice, that at the marriage
in Cana there is no mention of “the friends of the
bridegroom,” or, as we would call them, the groomsmen. This
was in strict accordance with Jewish custom, for groomsmen
were customary in
Judaea,
but not in Galilee (Cheth.
25
a).
This also casts light upon the locality where John 3:29 was
spoken, in which “the friend of the bridegroom” is
mentioned. But this expression is quite different from that
of “children of the bridechamber,” which occurs in Matthew
9:15, where the scene is once more laid in Galilee. The term
“children of the bridechamber” is simply a translation of
the Rabbinical “bene
Chuppah,”
and means the guests invited to the bridal. In Judaea there
were at every marriage
two
groomsmen or “friends of the bridegroom “ — one for the
bridegroom, the other for his bride. Before marriage, they
acted as a kind of intermediaries between the couple; at the
wedding they offered gifts, waited upon the bride and
bridegroom, and attended them to the bridal chamber, being
also, as it were, the guarantors of the bride’s virgin
chastity. Hence, when St. Paul tells the Corinthians (2
Corinthians 11:2): “I am jealous over you with godly
jealousy; or I have espoused you to one husband, that I may
present you as a chaste virgin to Christ,” he speaks, as it
were, in the character of groomsman or “bridegroom’s
friend,” who had acted as such at the spiritual union of
Christ with the Corinthian Church. And we know that it was
specially the duty of the “friend of the bridegroom” so to
present to him his bride. Similarly it was his also, after
marriage, to maintain proper terms between the couple, and
more particularly to defend the good fame of the bride
against all imputations. It may interest some to know that
this custom also was traced up to highest authority. Thus,
in the spiritual union of Israel with their God, Moses is
spoken of as “the friend of the bridegroom” who leads out
the bride (Exodus 19:17); while Jehovah, as the bridegroom,
meets His Church at Sinai (Psalm 68:7;
Pirke di
R.
E1.
41). Nay, in some mystic writings God is described as acting
“the friend of the bridegroom,” when our first parents met
in Eden. There is a touch of poetry in the application of
Ezekiel 28:13 to that scene, when angels led the choir, and
decked and watched the bridal-bed (Ab.
de R.
Nathan
4. and
12.). According to another ancient Rabbinical commentary (Ber.
R.
8.), God Almighty Himself took the cup of blessing and spoke
the benediction, while Michael and Gabriel acted the
“bridegroom’s friends” to our first parents when they wedded
in Paradise.
With such a “benediction,” preceded by a
brief formula, with which the bride was handed over to her
husband (Tobit 7:13), the wedding festivities commenced.
And so
the pair were led towards the bridal chamber (Cheder)
and the bridal bed (Chuppah).
The
bride went with her hair unloosed. Ordinarily, it was most
strictly enjoined upon women to have their head and hair
carefully covered. This may throw some light upon the
difficult passage, 1 Corinthians 11:1-10. We must bear in
mind that the apostle there argues with Jews, and that on
their
own ground,
convincing them by a reference to their own views, customs,
and legends of the propriety of the practice which he
enjoins. From that point of view the propriety of a woman
having her head “covered” could not be called in question.
The opposite would, to a Jew, have indicated immodesty.
Indeed, it was the custom in the case of a woman accused of
adultery to have her hair “shorn or shaven,” at the same
time using this formula: “Because thou hast departed from
the manner of the daughters of Israel, who go with their
head covered;... therefore that has befallen thee which thou
hast chosen.” This so far explains verses 5 and 6. The
expression “power,” as applied in verse 10 to the head of
woman, seems to refer to this covering, indicating, as it
did, that she was under the power of her husband, while the
very difficult addition, “because of the angels,” may either
allude to the presence of the angels and to the well-known
Jewish view (based, no doubt, on truth) that those angels
may be grieved or offended by our conduct, and bear the sad
tidings before the throne of God, or it may possibly refer
to the very ancient Jewish belief, that the evil spirits
gained power over a woman who went with her head bare.
The custom of a bridal veil — either for
the bride alone, or spread over the couple — was of ancient
date. It was interdicted for a time by the Rabbis after the
destruction of Jerusalem. Still more ancient was the wearing
of crowns (Cant. 3:11; Isaiah 61:10; Ezekiel 16:12), which
was also prohibited after the last Jewish war. Palm and
myrtle branches were borne before the couple, grain or money
was thrown about, and music preceded the procession, in
which all who met it were, as a religious duty, expected to
join.
The
Parable of the Ten Virgins, who, with their lamps, were in
expectancy of the bridegroom (Matthew 25:1), is founded on
Jewish custom. For, according to Rabbinical authority, such
lamps carried on the top of staves were frequently used,
while
ten
is the
number always mentioned in connection with public
solemnities.
The
marriage festivities generally lasted a week, but the bridal
days extended over a full month.
Having entered thus fully on the subject
of marriage, a few further particulars may be of interest.
The bars to marriage mentioned in the Bible are sufficiently
known. To these the Rabbis added others, which have been
arranged under two heads — as farther extending the laws of
kindred (to their
secondary
degrees), and as intended to guard morality. The former were
extended over the whole line of forbidden kindred, where
that line was direct, and to one link farther where the line
became indirect — as, for example, to the wife of a maternal
uncle, or to the step-mother of a wife. In the category of
guards to morality we include such prohibitions as that a
divorced woman might not marry her seducer, nor a man the
woman to whom he had brought her letter of divorce, or in
whose case he had borne testimony; or of marriage with those
not in their right senses, or in a state of drunkenness; or
of the marriage of minors, or under fraud, etc. A widower
had to wait over three festivals, a widow three months,
before remarrying, or if she was with child or gave suck,
for two years. A woman might not be married a third time; no
marriage could take place within thirty days of the death of
a near relative, nor yet on the Sabbath, nor on a feast-day,
etc. Of the marriage to a deceased husband’s brother (or the
next of kin), in case of childlessness, it is unnecessary
here to speak, since although the Mishnah devotes a whole
tractate to it (Yebamoth),
and it was evidently customary at the time of Christ (Mark
12:19, etc.), the practice was considered as connected with
the territorial possession of Palestine, and ceased with the
destruction of the Jewish commonwealth (Bechar.
1. 7). A priest was to inquire into the legal descent of his
wife (up to four degrees if the daughter of a priest,
otherwise up to five degrees), except where the bride’s
father was a priest in actual service, or a member of the
Sanhedrim. The high-priest’s bride was to be a maid not
older than six months beyond her puberty.
The fatal ease with which divorce could
be obtained, and its frequency, appear from the question
addressed to Christ by the Pharisees: “Is it lawful for a
man to put away his wife for every cause?” (Matthew 19:3),
and still more from the astonishment with which the
disciples had listened to the reply of the Savior (ver. 10).
That answer was much wider in its range than our Lord’s
initial teaching in the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5:32).
To the
latter no Jew could have had any objection, even though its
morality would have seemed elevated beyond their highest
standard, represented in this case by the school of Shammai,
while that of Hillel, and still more Rabbi Akiba, presented
the lowest opposite extreme. But in reply to the Pharisees,
our Lord placed the whole question on grounds which even the
strictest Shammaite would have refused to adopt. For the
farthest limit to which he would have gone would have been
to restrict the cause of divorce to “a matter of
uncleanness” (Deuteronomy 24:1), by which he would probably
have understood not only a breach of the marriage vow, but
of the laws and customs of the land. In fact, we know that
it included every kind of impropriety, such as going about
with loose hair, spinning in the street, familiarly talking
with men, ill-treating her husband’s parents in his
presence, brawling, that is, “speaking to her husband so
loudly that the neighbors could hear her in the adjoining
house” (Chethub.
7. 6), a general bad reputation, or the discovery of fraud
before marriage. On the other hand, the wife could insist on
being divorced if her husband were a leper, or affected with
polypus, or engaged in a disagreeable or dirty trade, such
as that of a tanner or coppersmith. One of the cases in
which divorce was obligatory was, if either party had become
heretical, or ceased to profess Judaism. But even so, there
were at least checks to the danger of general lawlessness,
such as the obligation of paying to a wife her portion, and
a number of minute ordinances about formal
letters
of divorce,
without which no divorce was legal
and
which had to be couched in explicit terms, handed to the
woman herself, and that in presence of two witnesses, etc.
According to Jewish law there were four
obligations incumbent on a wife towards her husband, and ten
by which he was bound. Of the latter, three are referred to
in Exodus 21:9, 10; the other seven include her settlement,
medical treatment in case of sickness, redemption from
captivity, a respectable funeral, provision in his house so
long as she remained a widow and had not been paid her
dowry, the support of her daughters till they were married,
and a provision that her sons should, besides receiving
their portion of the father’s inheritance, also share in
what had been settled upon her. The obligations upon the
wife were, that all her gains should belong to her husband,
as also what came to her after marriage by inheritance; that
the husband should have the usufruct of her dowry, and of
any gains by it, provided he had the administration of it,
in which case, however, he was also responsible for any
loss; and that he should be considered her heir-at-law.
What the family life among the godly in
Israel must have been, how elevated its tone, how loving its
converse, or how earnestly devoted its mothers and
daughters, appears sufficiently from the gospel story, from
that in the book of Acts, and from notices in the apostolic
letters. Women, such as the Virgin-mother, or Elisabeth, or
Anna, or those who enjoyed the privilege of ministering to
the Lord, or who, after His death, tended and watched for
His sacred body, could not have been quite solitary in
Palestine; we find their sisters in a Dorcas, a Lydia, a
Phoebe, and those women of whom St. Paul speaks in
Philippians 4:3, and whose lives he sketches in his Epistles
to Timothy and Titus. Wives such as Priscilla, mothers such
as that of Zebedee’s children, or of Mark, or like St.
John’s “elect lady,” or as Lois and Eunice, must have kept
the moral atmosphere pure and sweet, and shed precious light
on their homes and on society, corrupt to the core as it was
under the sway of heathenism. What and how they taught their
households, and that even under the most disadvantageous
outward circumstances, we learn from the history of Timothy.
And although they were undoubtedly in that respect without
many of the opportunities which we enjoy, there was one
sweet practice of family religion, going beyond the
prescribed prayers, which enabled them to teach their
children from tenderest years to intertwine the Word of God
with their daily devotion and daily life. For it was the
custom to teach a child some verse of Holy Scripture
beginning or ending with precisely the same letters as its
Hebrew name, and this birthday text or guardian-promise the
child was day by day to insert in its prayers.
Such
guardian words, familiar to the mind from earliest years,
endeared to the heart by tenderest recollections, would
remain with the youth in life’s temptations, and come back
amid the din of manhood’s battle. Assuredly, of Jewish
children so reared, so trained, so taught, it might be
rightly said: “Take heed that ye despise not one of these
little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels
do always behold the face of My Father which is in heaven.”