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EARNESTLY CONTENDING FOR THE FAITH:
A BISHOP MUST BE BLAMELESS,
THE HUSBAND OF ONE WIFE.
FROM THE BOOK (Links Below):

"THE MARRIAGE, DIVORCE, REMARRIAGE,
AND "HUSBAND OF ONE WIFE"
CONTROVERSY"

©Copyright March 26, 2014 by earnestlycontendingforthefaith.com
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THE LORD JESUS CHRIST IS

GOD MANIFEST IN THE FLESH.
THAT IS WHY HE IS GOD

Do you know for a fact that if you were to
die today that you would not go to hell?
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THIS WEB SITE HAS BEEN SET UP TO DEAL WITH SOME OF THE MOST CONTROVERSIAL ISSUES IN BAPTIST CHURCHES. THIS DOMAIN NAME WAS SPECIFICALLY PURCHASED TO ANSWER THE QUESTION OF HOW DO WE INTERPRET THE PHRASE "THE HUSBAND OF ONE WIFE" FROM 1 TIMOTHY 3:2. DOES THE PHRASE "THE HUSBAND OF ONE WIFE" DISQUALIFY A DIVORCED MAN FROM SERVING AS A BISHOP, ELDER, OR DEACON IN A LOCAL NEW TESTAMENT CHURCH? DOES THE PHRASE "THE HUSBAND OF ONE WIFE" FROM 1 TIMOTHY 3:2 DISQUALIFY A DIVORCED MAN FROM SERVING AS A MISSIONARY, EVANGELIST, OR IN ANY OTHER POSITION OF LEADERSHIP IN A LOCAL NEW TESTAMENT CHURCH? THIS WEB SITE ALSO DEALS WITH THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS: (1)WHAT DOES THE BIBLE TEACH CONCERNING MARRIAGE? (2) WHAT DOES THE BIBLE TEACH CONCERNING DIVORCE?  (3) IS ADULTERY A SCRIPTURAL GROUND FOR DIVORCE? (4) IS DESERTION A SCRIPTURAL GROUND FOR DIVORCE? (5) WHAT DOES THE BIBLE TEACH CONCERNING REMARRIAGE? (6) WHAT DOES THE BIBLE TEACH CONCERNING FORNICATION AND ADULTERY? (7) IS A DIVORCED PERSON WHO REMARRIES LIVING IN PERPETUAL ADULTERY? ALL THOSE QUESTION AND MORE ARE ANSWERED IN THE PAGES THAT FOLLOW.

 All that being said, the site is designed to provoke individual church members and church leaders to study and analyze the different doctrinal positions within Baptist churches concerning the issues of marriage, divorce, remarriage, and the qualifications for church offices such as bishop (pastor), elder, and deacon.  It also attempts to provoke individual Christians and church leaders to study and compare how those doctrinal positions agree with, or contradict, the whole counsel of God concerning the issues at hand. In other words, what does the BIBLE say?  We do not hold to a particular doctrine because Doctor So-And-So, or Pastor So-And-So, or Preacher So-And-So, or Teacher So-And-So said so, but because God said so in the Bible. Many will not even consider these pages because their minds have already been made up by what they have been taught by some great man of God or some great Bible college.  In other words:

DO NOT CONFUSE ME WITH BIBLE FACTS. MY MIND IS ALREADY MADE UP!
I KNOW WHAT I HAVE BEEN TAUGHT!

WILL YOU TAKE UP THE CHALLENGE??!

We have prepared a church survey that deals with both the issues upon which this web page is focused and other issues affecting sound church doctrine. This survey will take about one hour of your time to complete and is located at this link: CHURCH SURVEY. THIS SURVEY IS IN NO WAY TO BE INTERPRETED AS THE DOCTRINAL POSITION OF www.husbandofonewife.com/ or www.earnestlycontendingforthefaith.com/ . That being said, the survey questions are designed to get accurate answers from what we know are the different doctrinal positions within Baptist churches concerning the issues of marriage, divorce, remarriage, and the qualifications for church offices such as bishop (pastor), elder, and deacon. This survey is primarily focused upon the marriage, divorce, and remarriage issues. It also attempts to evaluate how marriage, divorce, and remarriage actually impacts the role of a man in our Baptist churches. Further, it attempts to gather data for the purpose of understanding what Baptists believe and why they believe what they believe concerning marriage, divorce, and remarriage. The purpose of the survey is not to determine what Baptists should believe concerning these issues, but is rather focused upon what they do believe and how they put their beliefs into practice. A further objective of the survey is to motivate you to analyze and consider the WHOLE counsel of the Word of God as it relates to the issues of marriage, divorce, and remarriage. It is a doctrine that is not built on a few isolated passages. In coming to a scriptural conclusion concerning these issues, our conclusion(s) should not contradict any other doctrine of the Bible. We must remember that God is as much a God of justice as he is a God of righteousness. God is not a respecter of persons. He does not hold us responsible for your sin and neither does he hold you responsible for our sin. This survey is also an attempt to get you to consider how your positions line up with what the scriptures actually teach concerning marriage, divorce, remarriage, and the qualifications for church offices. Many of the questions are designed to be thought provoking. If we hold to doctrinal positions that either contradict clear passages of scripture or contradict what the Bible teaches about the attributes and nature of God, then we need to reexamine our doctrine. This survey is not an attempt by us to change what you believe and how you apply it. We do not seek confrontation. A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still. We are appealing to you to be forthcoming about what you ACTUALLY believe about the issues related to marriage and divorce and NOT what you have been taught. We are also appealing to you to compare what you have been taught by men against what the scriptures teach. Neither is this survey an attempt to determine what everyone else believes so that we can conform our beliefs and practice to theirs (We know our position and it is our sincere belief that it is led of the Holy Ghost of God). Following the marriage, divorce, and remarriage survey questions, there are also some general doctrinal survey questions that will be used in an attempt to group the data. We require your name and church name because we believe that any “conviction” that is not tied to a scripture and a name is an opinion that will wither when put under the examination of the whole counsel of God. Many men have been pressured into holding to the same beliefs that some great man of God holds to without having examined those beliefs under the microscope of the Word of God. A wise man is one that will listen to the counsel of an old man of God. An even wiser man is one that will compare that counsel to the Word of God. We do not hold to a particular doctrine because some man or some institution says to, but because God says to. We would also like to have the name of the seminaries or and/or Bible institutes you attended. Regardless of what your position is on divorce, remarriage, and qualifications for church offices we would encourage you to complete this survey in its entirety because it could be that your insight might help someone who is struggling with this issue. We ask you to provide scripture references because we believe that any doctrine that cannot be plainly and literally supported from the scriptures is not a Biblical doctrine. We ask for the teaching of your seminary/institute because we believe many men today are following the unscriptural teaching of their professors without testing them by the standard of the scriptures. We are not asking you to do anything that we have not already done. In preparing this survey we have taken EVERY occurrence of the following words and phrases as they relate to husband and wife relationships and sexual relationships and read, studied, and interpreted them in the context they appear: “one flesh (7 times)”, “strange flesh (1 time)”, husband (120 times), husband’s (6 times), husbands (17 times), “husband of one wife (2 times)”, spouse (6 times), wife (396 times), wife’s (11 times), wives (131 times), “come/came in unto (11 times)”, “went in unto” (11 times), “go in unto” (7 times), “lie with (23 times)”, adultery (39 times), adulterer (3 times) , adulteress (5 times), uncleanness (235 times), fornication (23), fornicator(s) (5 times), lasciviousness (6 times), concupiscence (3 times), “women did change the natural use” (1 time), “without natural affection” (1 time), effeminate (1 time), “abusers of themselves with mankind” (1 time), sodomite(s) (5 times), sodomitess (1 time in the marginal note for Deuteronomy 23:17), “men with men” (1 time), concubine(s) (39 times), harlot(s) (50 times, whore(s) (17 times), a whoring (19 times), whoredom(s) (53 times), whoremonger(5 times), divorce(s) (1 time), divorced (4 times), divorcement (6 times), loosed (32 times), “put away ” (59 times), “putteth away” (1 time), “putting away” (3 times), betroth (4 times), betrothed (9 times), spouse (6 times), espoused (5 times), espousals (2 times), bride (14 times), bridegroom (24 times), marry (22 times), marrying (2), marrieth (4 times), married (30 times), marriage (18 times), widow(s)(‘s) (86 times), and widowhood (4 times). All these words and phrases have some bearing on the subject at hand. In the New Testament, the English word “fornication” (see Jude 7 for an example) covers the full range of natural and unnatural sexual relationships and perversions. It also includes pornography. It is also obvious from the Old Testament that adultery covers a much broader range of sexual sins than just being heterosexually unfaithful to the marriage bed. There is an epidemic of divorces being caused by the fornication of sexual perversion and sodomy. Men and women are forsaking God ordained one man with one woman marriages for ungodly sodomite relationships. Also, the divorce rate in the “professing” church is at least as high as it is in secular society. It is obvious from the Bible that God intended that marriage would be one man with one woman for one life time. God hates putting away (divorce). Divorce is very painful. After all, it is the ripping apart of one flesh and what should be one spirit. This survey is set up so that all questions with an asterisk must be answered. There are a total of about 244 separate questions. Answering at least 230 of those questions is simply a matter of checking a box. Most of the other questions are optional and only involve a request for scripture references or documentation. his survey will take somewhere between 45 minutes to one hour to complete. It took the tired preparer of the survey 37 minutes to complete it because of his familiarity with the survey. The results of this survey will be compiled and posted to this web site. The results of this survey will also be posted to the web site www.earnestlycontendingforthefaith.com/ . WE THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR YOUR PARTICIPATION IN THIS SURVEY.


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We challenge you to read this introduction and the book all the way through. This book was 16 months in preparation. Part of the reason for the extended preparation time is because it was tightly wedged between this and church duties. It is one of the most exhaustive discussions of the subjects it treats that we have seen. This book is 208 standard typewritten pages long which equates to a standard book of 360 pages. This book deals with one of the most divisive issues in fundamentalist and Independent Baptist churches: that issue being whether a divorced man is "qualified" to serve in the offices of pastor, deacon, and elder. On the positive side, we want to thank Pastor Karl M. Baker for motivating us to study this issue through for ourselves through our reading of  his book "The Marriage & Divorce Controversy With A Rebuttal Of 1 Timothy 3:2". On the negative side, the booklet "Running Unsent" by that "once married" peacock, Billy Ball, drove us to study this issue through and through convincing us that we have always been wrong on this issue since we swallowed it whole when we were first taught it.  We were gut hooked by men with good intentions, but thank God we have been rescued!
It is high time that fundamentalist and Independent Baptist leaders stop beating up on Peter Ruckman concerning the issues of so-called "double married" preachers and the King James Bible and study the issues through for themselves instead of parroting  the positions of "great men of God", many of whom come down on opposite sides of the issue. A primary example would be that bastion of Independent Baptist doctrine, C. I. Scofield, who was a divorced, "double married" preacher himself. To add insult to injury for the fundamentalist, he was also Dwight L. Moody's pastor. Dwight L. Moody knew Scofield was divorced and Moody was involved in calling Scofield to be his pastor. Many of you beat Peter Ruckman up as badly as you do the Roman Catholics whose marriage and divorce doctrine you teach and preach. We have repeated the same pattern in this study that we did when we studied the King James Bible issue. Our doctrine of the King James Bible was already settled before we read anything by Peter Ruckman. Ditto for our doctrine of marriage, divorce, remarriage, and “qualifications” for bishops, deacons, and elders. Many of you beat up the King James Bible much more badly than you do Peter Ruckman when it comes to marriage, divorce, remarriage, and “qualifications” for bishops, deacons, and elders, or you act like you have excommunicated the King James Bible from your study and taken up with the pope and his cardinals.
Many times when we have a particular doctrine that always runs up red flags when we try to teach them to young Christians, we just reassure them with some empty, nervous platitudes and move on without giving them an in depth scriptural, explanation to their questions. We hope they do not probe any further because we would be embarrassed if they learned we really do not know the answer when we should. We have had some of those awkward moments! Those red flags should alert us that at the very least there is some major defect in our teaching methods and study, or worse still, that we might be teaching false doctrine. Many times, those red flags are run up by the Holy Ghost. Many times we find ourselves on shaky ground because we either do not believe that which we are teaching and/or have not studied the issue through for ourselves so that the doctrines we teach are the product of deeply rooted convictions that are not the regurgitations of a parrot, but are instead the utterances of the Holy Ghost. When tried in the furnace of affliction our preferences come to the top as dross while our convictions are refined as pure gold. Concerning this issue, much of the fires we face in the furnace of affliction come from our proud Baptist brethren. Many of the men we know have doctrinal “convictions” until their doctrinal feet are put to the fires of the Scriptures then they run like scalded dogs to the shelter of what doctor so-and-so has taught them. The Holy Ghost has an uncanny knack of revealing loosely held false doctrine to us through the innocent questions of new born babes in Christ. If you cannot give a new born babe a straight answer from the Scriptures, that is the Holy Ghost warning you to study thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, RIGHTLY DIVIDING THE WORD OF TRUTH. We uncritically and dangerously teach and regurgitate what we have been taught without studying the issue through for ourselves. That is why we have so many apostates and heretics in our Baptist pulpits.
One of the red flags that gets run up for new born babes is the false doctrine that they are taught concerning marriage, divorce, remarriage, and “qualifications” for bishops, deacons, and elders. When we say new born babes, we are talking about saved people here and not a bunch of professing Christians who, like many Independent Baptists, have a head full of doctrine and a heart full of hell. There is not one pastor in ten that can give you a scriptural defense from the Bible as to why they believe what they do about marriage, divorce, remarriage, and “qualifications” for bishops, deacons, and elders. They can give you one or two sentences about what they have been taught, but nothing in depth because their doctrine is as shallow as what they have been taught: one-sixteenth of an inch deep and twenty-five miles square. The same applies to the doctrines of Calvinism, the doctrine that says you can lose your salvation, and the defense of the King James Bible. Those are yet three other reasons why we have so many apostates and heretics in our Baptist pulpits.
There are many great men of God and great churches that we love that we disagree with on the issue of marriage, divorce, remarriage, and “qualifications” for bishops, deacons, and elders that either will break, or have broken fellowship with us over this issue. There are many pastors out there that will not allow a divorced man to do anything in their church but tithe. There are many pastors that will not preach for a church that allows divorced men to preach in their pulpit. There are also men out there who will break fellowship with a man who preaches in the pulpit of a pastor that allows divorced men to preach in his church. This is obviously a very emotional issue for their to be such strong reactions to it, but WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY? Again, we challenge you to read this book through and through. We also challenge you to read Brother Karl Baker's book.


CHAPTERS IN HTML FORMAT (Read Online)
Chapter 1: Introduction Chapter 6: Divorce And Remarriage Part 2
Chapter 2: Marriage Part 1 Chapter 6: Divorce And Remarriage Part 3
Chapter 2: Marriage Part 2 Chapter 7: Sexual Perversion And Sodomy
Chapter 3: Mothers, Daughters, Wives In Israel Chapter 8: Standards For Church Service Part 1
Chapter 4: Marriage From The ISBE Chapter 8: Standards For Church Service Part 2
Chapter 5: A Study In 1 Corinthians 7 Chapter 8: Standards For Church Service Part 3
Chapter 6: Divorce And Remarriage Part 1 Glossary
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